What Dancing With the Stars Can Teach Us About Masculinity (part 2)
Dancing has taught me some amazing lessons about relationships, I’ll share a few of these lessons with you here and in and future blogs.
Dancing begins with a good approach.
The invitation to dance is a man’s invitation for a woman to come out of the world of women and join him in a world of magic.
How many teenage boys pull up in front of their girlfriend’s home and honk? Does that still happen? Really? I know a guy who proposed to his wife by texting – “Wanna do it? Get married?” – They laugh about it now (thank God she’s laughing) because that’s a pretty lame proposal, possibly the worst proposal I’ve heard about.
When a man approaches for a dance, he extends a hand, an invitation to join him. In the Tango however, it’s manhood on steroids. The man makes eye contact first, from across the room. He says with his eyes, “I want you. Yes, you. I want you to dance with me.” – then he approaches. His hand extended, expecting her to come out from the female pack and be with him. I mean really BE WITH him. The Tango is intensely romantic. The Tango Dancer is an Alpha Male, and she knows it. The Tango is a hot dance.
Many men are afraid to approach a woman they are attracted to. We call it “Approach Anxiety” – and it’s something I help men overcome if they are to realize their worth and value to women.
It’s about the dance, and the dance is about strength and beauty. Strength and Beauty contain the goodness of Love.