Unrequited Love: Giving the Gift No One Wants (Part 1 of 3)
The Beatles sang, “Love … Love … Love … All you need is Love…”
– then they broke up. – The inimical, Ryan D. Jones
Ryan says a lot of stuff I don’t hear, a lot of stuff I wish I hadn’t heard. And he says a lot of crazy stuff I wish I could publish and make a mint off of. He often says some of the funniest, most profound things in life. So I listen when he talks, because you never know…. even a blind squirrel finds a nut occasionally.
Love is what it’s all about isn’t it? We are hardwired to love and belong. It’s the sign of being a complete human being.
If you find my beloved, tell him I am faint with Love. -Song of Solomon 5:8
If we are hardwired to love and belong, then it is the most painful, and universal experience to be in love with someone, when they don’t love you back in the same way. Unrequited Love is a love that is unreciprocated. Every adult has been on one side of this love at one time in their life. It’s part of being an adult. It increases your compassion for both the loved and the lover. It is an insanely painful, heart-breaking ride that can leave you pretty distracted at best, and in agony at worst. On a richter scale it is probably like having something the size of a dinosaur sit on your chest.
One co-ed said, “I had given him everything I had (not physically, but definitely emotionally). I was totally empty and heartbroken by his rejection, and this affected me for a long time afterward…. I have not given myself to any guy with that same intensity since.”